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We are a very important point, self-confidence, because it is an asset in more ways than one and is a feature particularly masculine (which means that we find more widespread and more pronounced among men ), it is attractive and has magnetic properties. Have you ever been yourself attracted to someone because that person was sure of it?

One reason among others, by the fact that people have confidence in them have a reassuring effect for other women and, in general, like men who can reassure them. shy flirting is a good example.

I have also good news for you if you do not trust you: you can learn it! And we'll see how in this article.

To begin, we ask the question: "Where does this feeling of insecurity when interacting with women? . There are various answers, depending on the case, but after the many testimonies I have received, I concluded that most men who lose their confidence when they interact with a woman have the same problem: they attach too much importance to the possible outcome of this interaction.

Some are afraid of rejection (and therefore the feeling of failure and feeling bad) and even violent reactions of women if they dredge too openly, others think they will make fun of them or worse , they will laugh at them with their friends, others think they may jeopardize their chances of success with many women if they fail with because they are categorized (bad ) dredgers.

In reality, I can assure you from long experience, no release has never killed anyone. I have also never received a slap in the same period of my youth when I showed very (too) directly with the girls. It is true that a rejection is not fun, but if relative, it is not so terrible.

For years now, I'm with humor and it is not rare that I laugh with one of my rake! For rakes you will ... And it can even be fun. I particularly remember an evening when I approached a girl with a friend and she was gone, exclaiming "oh lalaaaa" in a manner so haughty that she made us have a giggle, but no laughter classic, one that you sculpt the abs of reinforced concrete in less than 10 minutes! Better than the machines sold in shopping!

Tell you that among the women you meet, some are married and / or very loyal, others will not be in a good mood or just cold, others are lesbians or have a religion that forbids them to leave with boys, etc.. etc ... There are a thousand and one reasons that a girl will reject you and most have no connection with you, so do not take it badly.

In case of rejection, only one thing to do: go to the next. Do you stare at one woman. The fasteners are common among men sentimental, learn to avoid them. If this is not it, that's the next (especially the next did not look sick, look a little ...).

Tell you that there are enough fish in the ocean and seeing things the way you'll realize that discharges are not so great a disaster.

A technique that works pretty well is the "crash and burn" it is a kind of training whose purpose is precisely to reject you.

Do not those eyes whiting fried ... I'll explain.

The interest of the crash and burn is that because your goal is to fail, you're not stressed as a result of your interaction do not seem important. As a result, you become more familiar with failure (ie the release) and you'll realize that there is nothing to fear, at most, but it will ignore anything that you can not get back in minute following will happen.

Familiarize yourself with the release aims to show you that you can try to tease a woman whenever the opportunity presents itself, without taking risks you can imagine because in reality there is none!

What is interesting about this technique is that it can be done safely with a friend, you can, for example, you launch the challenges of style: say "hello, I love you" to the next 5 girls who pass. It is obvious that in most cases you will not get positive responses from girls (unless they have a lot of humor) but you'll have fun and above all you seasoned! Just like a child who is afraid to dive into a deep pool, once he dared, he realizes he was stupid to be so scared and he will love it!

You can of course change the style of challenge, use your imagination that you learn to work the concept of difference.

Another method you can use in addition is auto (no, this is not the name of a store of used cars ...). This technique is used by professional athletes to enable them to be mentally prepared to give the best of themselves.

This method is not one bit simpler, you just write on a sheet of paper phrases that will fill you with confidence.

Example: I am becoming stronger in the field of seduction.

I am master of all that happens when I meet a woman.

Nothing and nobody will stop me from being a great seducer ...

Write in some on a piece that you plierez and you put in your portfolio and you will always have with you, giving you a psychological effect which will act as a reassuring and decisive force. Furthermore you will be able to read these few sentences several times a day by impregnating you well and you will see that you are more confident.

Tip: read there every time you go to the toilet, in fact, it is a place where you tighten the shelter looks and where you normally visit several times a day, which you will remember these sentences quickly and sustainably, they will therefore have a great influence on your subconscious.

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